Posts Tagged ‘love’


I love inspirational books! I normally read three or four books parallell and one little book that I really value is”Who will cry when you die?” by Robin Sharma, author of ”The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari”. It’s a simple, down to earth book with hands on tips on how to improve your own life and touch the lives of others. Indeed, who will cry when we die? Who’s life have we touched? It’s better to really touch one person than to caress a million, as I see it. How often in life do we get the opportunity to really connect with someone? That of course depends on our own attitude. We can only attract what we are willing to give ourselves, right?

But there’s no real use to us who will cry when we die, is it? When we’re gone, we’re gone and all that remains is the result of our deeds and actions. Our thoughts and dreams we take with us, unless we’ve had time to manifest them physically before we leave. That’s why action speaks louder than words and it is crucial to transform the ideas and dreams into physical matter. The wonders of the world, like the pyramids or Taj Mahal, would not touch the hearts of millions unless they were manifested in physical matter. Thankfully the emotions and devotion were carved into the marble and the rocks and remain reminders forever.

What is relevant to us while we are alive is who will die a little every time we cry? Who cares that much for us? When it comes down to it, perhaps there’s just one or two people in our lives that really care that much and those people are beyond precious and we must never forget that. Showing appreciation is one of the things that is so simple, but somehow even simpler to forget to do. It doesn’t take much time nor money to let someone know what they mean to us, but too often we assume that people already know or that it goes without saying. But why not say it if you feel it? Why not show it? Is pride in the way? Or do we subconsciously think that we are becoming vulnerable by expressing love and gratitude? We don’t. It’s the bold and brave people that dare to expose their hearts and express their emotions. That is strength and one of the most attractive features in a human being; ability of expression and exposure.

One of the tips Robin Sharma shares for a better life is to focus on the worthy people in your life, those who really dies a little every time you cry I guess, write thank you notes and create a love account. It might sound cheezy but I really like the idea! Making it a structured habit to show appreciation. One of my teachers said that one has to learn how to love. Just like we are taught how to read, write, crawl and walk we must learn how to love other people in a good way and expressthat love in a way that touches the other person. We also must learn to love what’s good for us, which is not always easy. Instead we tend to love what is bad for us; we know the stuff is poison but we got to have a taste… But that can change as we move from instinctive, primitive love up through the human energy system towards spiritual love. Primitive love is a threesum between you, the other person and your own ego, while a more spiritually oriented love is free of ego and unconditional.

The power of the human mind… and the human heart… is immense and in many ways virgin territory. I believe it will take many, many years before the full potential of the human mind is understood and perhaps centuries before it is not only understood but used to its full potential. The quickest way to understand this is to start acting, expressing and manifesting… from thought, to word, to physical manifestation.


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Every time we find ourselves in a conflict, we have the opportunity of growth.

Most of us don’t have a relaxed or even adult attitude to conflicts. The very word conflict is gray, square and hard with a heavyness to it. When a conflict arises, our energy is pulled down to the 1st chakra almost by the force of gravity. The primitive side of our being rises to the surface and all of a sudden we become aware of tribe and territory, of standing our ground and defending ourselves – whether there is a real threat or not. Isn’t it remarkable how different opinions can be perceived as a threat still?

Our adrenal glands starts producing, adrenalin, our heart rate increases and the blood vessels are contracting, so that we won’t bleed to death in the case of injury. The animal comes to the surface and all of a sudden we are cavemen . It doesn’t matter what kind of conflict it is; our bodies cannot differentiate a real, physical threat from a mental or emotional one and so we react the same way physically.

If we are mature and wise, we can observe our body’s reaction with a calm mind and detachment, make curious notes on what is going on – where is my energy accumulating? This is the moment, a slight gap in time, when we have the opportunity of growth, before pride and ego kicks in.  This is when we can chose to make the conflict a lesson and direct our energy towards the higher chakras instead, by the power of the mind. Yes, we are that powerful. Intentions rule the universe. Energy is not a tsunami, breaking on the shores of our consciousness and sweeping away everything in its way… no… it is an intelligent power that is asking for direction to help you fulfill your higher purpose. It is there for you to access and for you to master in a loving and intelligent way.

The other day I had a conflict with someone dear to me. Maybe he is still in conflict, I don’t know. But I am not and that is what matters. I made a choice, during our conflict and afterwards, to honor my choice of being. I have chosen to live according to certain principles and I will not be pushed off my path by my own ego, his ego or our limited understandings.

I choose to see further than my ego, further than his ego and just acknowledge that it is not a matter of right and wrong but of different levels of understanding; different energetic frequencies. In the moment of a conflict between two people, they are on different energetic frequencies. We have all heard the annoying buzzling sound between two radio channels. That is the sound of conflict, because conflict is merely absence of communication. With good communication understanding follows and when there is understanding… there’s no space for conflict.

The mind is like a shadowy forest, where you have to create paths that leads to the sunlit clearing… the more times you walk those paths, the easier they become to find and the less obstacles lie on them, and so by every time it gets easier to reach that clearing and lay down in the sunlight. The behavioral patterns in our brains work the same way; the more often we make higher choicer, the easier it becomes and the more natural it feels and before you know it your mind has actually transformed to a higher frequency. Like the hit rate on Google – the more often a site is googled the higher up on the search engine it appears.

Because we are humans and not animals, we always have the privilege of making a higher choice and thereby a chance of spiritual development. Take that chance!

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