Posts Tagged ‘expression’

Through my window I can hear the soothing sound of the constant flow of the river Ganga… or ”mother Ganga”, as they say here. The unfamiliar things, customs and people passing my eyes are merely reflections of my mind’s eye. A whirling river of colors, fragrances, people that dwell inside of me as well as in the external world. Everything is everywhere and I am everything. Something that has risen to the surface during my journey so far is the power of choice, expression and of surrendering, and how spiritually crucial it is that we acknowledge these things. All of these are connected to the fifth chakra, biologically connected to the throat and the thyroid.

To me, people could take away everything from me but the last thing I would give up nowadays would be my freedom of choice. In fact, I’m constantly amazed over how lightly some people take on this and how few actually take advantage of it. You always have a choice. Even the choice of not making a choice is in itself a choice! We must guard this and use it at all times, to grow spiritually. So many people give away (no wonder there are so many people suffering from under-functioning thyroid) their power of choice to someone else; to society, religion, cultural customs, spouse, family, co-worker… the list could go on and on! As someone wise said; life isn’t about finding oneself but about creating oneself and to define who you are you need to make choices. All the time. Choices are like the hands of a skilled potter, shaping the moist clay between his hands into something beautiful and useful.

Our choices define us, every day and as we evolve, we (hopefully!) move up through the chakras and our choices will have less and less to do with plain survival and more and more with spiritual development. But we can also excercise the ability to make higher choices. The first three chakras, situated at the navel and below, is concerned with our physical ability to survive and reproduce in a hard world. Choices made from these chakras will not be spritual or intellectual.

The fourth chakra is the gate keeper through which choices benefiting the higher centres will be made once the are approved by the heart. We need to ask ourselves whether the choice we are about to make belongs to the lower or the higher chakras? Am I making this choice because of fear of not surviving? Of not reproducing? Of not making money? Of not being accepted by my tribe? Or does my choice qualify for spiritual development? None is better than the other, so don’t judge yourself – simply develop an awareness! If you are homeless, you will naturally make a choice of getting food and roof above your head than some spiritually developing choice.

Then there’s the importance of expressing our choices and our will to the world. If we don’t, the prana/energy in the 5th chakra area becomes thick and sluggish with unexpressed feelings and opinions. We are born to communicate, born to express ourselves. Children (and old people who have lost their wits) constantly express themselves, until they are taught that it is bad mannered and they are forced into normalization (and out goes their natural psychic abilities).

Another spiritual quality connected to the 5th chakra is (and this is a bit contradictive indeed) is the ability to surrender to divine guidance, to divine will. This is extremely difficult for most of us, because it often creates a conflict with our ego, who likes to be in charge. For me this is probably the most challenging in my spiritual practice. The ability to let go, surrender and trust that all is well. I simply cannot trust that things will work out to my benefit, unless I am actively getting involved in it. Getting involved is of course good; if you’re uninvolved in your own life, you’re in serious trouble! But you have to be able to let go sometimes, have a little faith and trust that there is a higher purpose, an intelligent force whose intentions are good and that there’s always a bigger picture –  a master plan of which you only see a small, small part of.



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This morning I was sitting on my balcony with my morning tea, listening to the summer rain falling outside and drawing what I like to call a new life flower. I do that every now and then and it really is very helpful and very easy; you simply draw a big, lotus shaped flower on a blank piece of paper and let each petal represent a different area of your life. One petal for family, one for love, one for career, one for spirituality, one for friends etc…. Then you pretend that the pen you’re writing with is a magic one and whatever you write will come true.

I firmly believe that the first step towards getting the life that you want is expressingthe life that you want – most importantly to yourself but also to others. Deep inside, we all know what we want, even though we say we don’t. We do know, but we are for some reason terrified of expressing it. There’s a collective misunderstanding that expression of desires is somehow rude, inappropriate, bad mannered and somehow cheeky. But if there’s something I’ve learnt the past years, in regards to both relationships and career, it’s that if you express what you want and need – you are much more likely to get it! Which indeed also makes perfect sense.

It has been considered especially inappropriate for us women to express our desires, whether in work, relationships or life in general. Up until the 70′s we were supposed (and unfortunately this is still the case in many countries…) to be seen but not heard, so the resistance of expressing ourselves are almost encoded in our DNA and we need to change that – right now! Imagine going to the grocery shop and standing there, hoping that the shopkeeper will somehow intuitively figure out what you want to buy? How long would you have to be standing there waiting? Probably an eternity and people would consider you half daft for taking that approach.

The universe and the law of attraction works the same way; what you bring your attention to will come around and when you express that, it will come around even quicker! One should never talk about one’s spiritual practice but one shouldalways express what one desires. You don’t have to believe in karma, gods, the law of attraction or anything like that, because it is a proven fact that when a thought/wish is repeated over and over again the brain subconsciously understands that it is a matter of importance and influences you to make the decisions which will eventually get you that. And when you express what you want to other people, doors start to open and you’re helped by their minds and their networks too!

If I could give you one tip this rainy Sunday it would be to draw a life flower and start expressing yourself. Asking for something is not rude if you do it in a sophisticated way. I believe all relationships, whether personal or professional, benefit from expression of desires. For example, as I write this, my male cat jumps up at my desk, shoves his head into my chest in a clearly affectionate manner and begins to purr so loud that it’s ridiculous. He’s expressing himself in an obvious and not so subtle manner, making me understand that what he wants and needs now is attention and for me to stroke him. My female cat on the other hand is much prouder and more discreet. She looks at me and tries telepathy  for me to understand what she wants. Doesn’t work half as well… guess which one of them ends up with most cuddle time, unfair as it may be?

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